Humanities: Art, Language, and Spirituality in Health Care| Volume 61, ISSUE 1, P216-220, January 2021

How to Be a Friend Who Is a Physician Without Being a Physician Friend


      As physicians, we are often asked for advice when loved ones become ill. Sometimes, the request advice is explicit; often, it is more supportive in nature and this may blur the boundary between being a friend and being a physician. Through various excerpts from social medial exchange, this narrative discusses the experience with a friend who was diagnosed with head and neck cancer during my Palliative Medicine Fellowship.

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